Are You Single & Pining? -- The Contentment Quiz for Christian Girls

A healthy and Biblical attitude towards future marriage does not include "pining" - the state of wanting a husband desperately, living in discontentment/unhappiness/despair until he arrives. Pining is the opposite of prayerful contentment. Godly contentment means praying and preparing towards your God-given purpose, while wholeheartedly trusting God's timing and rejoicing daily in each of His blessings. 

Pining for marriage is not attractive. In fact, it often does the opposite of attracting a guy: it repels him. Pining and discontentment rob a girl of that inner beauty of the heart, and a wise man (like the one you want to attract) knows that pining now can only lead to discontentment later.

Those who pine for Mr. Right view marriage as the solution to all of their problems; the beginning of their real life; the state that will finally make them truly happy + content.

Reality check: the person you are right now is the same person you will be after getting married.

If you are not content in the state you are in right now, you will have something new to feel discontented with soon after you get married. Like, you can't get pregnant fast enough. Or you have to live too far away from your birth family. Or your husband doesn't spend enough time with you.

Girls who are pining away for marriage are not prepared for marriage.

Achieving current contentment is Marriage Prep 101. To find out how content you are, or whether you are pining away for marriage, here’s a quick heart check:

Contentment Quiz for Christian Girls

 
1. Do you feel like your life will only truly begin after you get married?
2. Do you believe you cannot be fully happy until a guy comes along for you?
3. Do you think of your single years as wasted time?
4. Do you believe marriage will finally solve all of your problems?
5. Do you believe you will not be lonely after marriage?
6. Do you think of marriage as the ultimate goal in your life?
7. If you knew you were never going to get married, would the future look dismal to you?

Okay, how'd you do? I sure hope you answered No to every question. But if not, here's what you can do to fight the Pining Plague and take the first step towards prepping for God's gift of marriage:

1. Celebrate today! You are alive and able to grow. (celebration is an attitude)
2. Thank God for ALL of His incredible blessings! (gratitude is the key to contentment)
3. Prepare for marriage. (preparation empowers girls)

Philippians 4:11 - "for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content." That state of contentment includes your childhood, your single state, your marriage, your old age. Pray towards God's timing and guidance of marriage, but pray with thanksgiving for what you already have, because gratitude is a major cure for discontentment.